Cringe Is Only for Rich People.

At least, that's what i'm trying to burn into my head.

This quote has been on my mind for a bit.

We're all familiar with the concept in some way, shape, or form. Basically similar to "everything you want is on the other side of fear."

It wouldn't be my first interaction with the idea. But I'm also toying with telling myself that "cringe is only for rich people who can afford it". I am not rich, therefore I have not earned the right to cringe.

Of course, that's a bit extreme, sounds like hustle culture and a tad bit unhealthy but I find that extremes like that help my mind put things into perspective. The underlying idea is you need something, e.g money and at the same time you don't want to do the thing that increases your chances to get what you want. Makes no logical sense, even though it makes emotional sense. And you sometimes need a way to rile yourself up such that you can feel the want for what you want enough to overcome the things holding you back.

I struggle with it because it's true. It's a bit sad, the natural state of caring what people think. It has its benefits, obviously. Caring what people think keeps you accountable if it's the right people. You don't want to go around without a regard for anyone's opinions. The problem is we subconsciously regard everyone's opinions.

But for me it goes a step further. It's not just what people think. It's what I think of myself. The internal branding I have. If the only thing in my way was what people thought, then things would be easier. I have a way of finding my way to what I want even if I go kicking and screaming. So for me, cringe is also the tax I pay to prove to myself that I care about what I want more than what I think about myself.

Sometimes you just have to overcome looking foolish to yourself.

Or worse, you may have judged the types of people doing the things you have now realized you have to do in an unflaterring light in the past. Hence, realizing you need to do it puts you under your own microscope. And it's not comfortable. You're at risk of becoming a hypocrite.

You are probably also egotistical. Ego is the enemy. Pushing past your discomfort for anything can feel like a humiliation ritual, even though you know that no one really cares.

It's also, unfortunately, a moving target. You don't solve your internal cringe once. You sort of have to decide to torture yourself each time. "Do it anyway," one might say. Emotions, unfortunately are not a case to be solved. You just get better at overcoming them each time. Eventually, results and past history of success or learnings after pushing past discomfort, make it overwhelmingly difficult to not do.

So I think for me, the hardest part is fighting my image of myself and what I should be like. Once I can systemise overcoming that, it will be crazy to see what I can do.

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That's all for now. Hope you enjoyed it.

À la prochaine 😊.